I am a woman. Strong. Smart. Capable. However, I am not these things the same way a man is strong, smart, and capable. God created me in my own category, separate from man. So, then, what is true feminism?
This is a Christian Life Style blog. Therefore I will be giving, not just my perspective and opinions, but the way God perceives women. If you’re not interested in that I kindly suggest moving on, but I will tell you that it’s probably not the sexist, suppressive perception you might be thinking of.
Created to Work Together
God created Eve after Adam. Why? In one aspect, Men were created to lead and women were created to support. Let’s look at scripture. Genesis 2 talks about the creation of man and woman. Here’s verse 18:
“18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”
Adam was naming all God’s creations and working the Garden of Eden. Everything had a partner to do whatsoever God created it for. Except Adam. God saw this and said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.”(KJV, Genesis 2:18) The phrase “help meet” is also known as “help mate” or “partner.”
Matthew Henry says beautifully in His commentary (Bible History, Old Testament Vol 1.: The World Before The Flood and The History of the Patriarchs):
“God “put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it,”
and gave him a congenial companion in Eve…’
“Congenial companion” means “existing or associated together harmoniously.” (Merriam-Webster Dictionary) Harmonies are notes that are not the same, but are a pairing of two or more different notes that complement each other. God designed Eve to be harmonious with Adam– a complement of him.
Musical notes don’t sound as beautiful as when there’s harmonies. In the same aspect, man doesn’t do as beautiful work as when he has a good partner that complements him. That’s where woman comes in. She’s strong, smart, and capable– just like man, but in all the ways he’s not.
Similar but Different Qualities
Man and woman have similar qualities because we’re created in God’s image (Genesis 1:27). Two hands, two feet, and an ability to love and show emotion. In those similar qualities, there are slightly different variations in size and strength. In other cases, those similarities aren’t so similar at all. God has a purpose in each difference.
True Feminism isn’t trying to be the same as men. True feminism is taking pride in our femininity. Women are so versatile. We have the ability to make homes, bare children out of our bodies, and love with such a compassion and mercy that truly reflects God’s attribute of love. We make great respectable leaders, thoughtful friends, and reliable people in general. But what if people don’t see you that way because you’re a woman?
In my day to day life, I don’t wear pants. Its a personal decision I’ve made because dresses and skirts are the most feminine way to dress. No, its not the only way to dress feminine, but I think its a way to quickly separate me from the world as one of God’s daughter’s. A co-worker once came up to me and said, “You know what I love about you? You rock your femininity.” That’s feminism! Loving who you are and earning the respect of others by your dress, attitude, and personality regardless of what people will think! Take pride in how you were created– not in-spite of what of other people think, but because of how He created you!
Being Virtuous is Our Superpower
The Virtuous Wife 10 Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. 11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain. A Woman Who Fears the Lord 29 “Many daughters have done well, But you excel them all.” 30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. 31 Give her of the fruit of her hands, And let her own works praise her in the gates.
I don’t know why making a home and being wives and mothers became a negative. But God says its an admirable thing! (see all of Proverbs 31) However, being homemakers is not all that God created us for. God created us to have virtue because this is what makes us complimentary to men. Virtue is what every impeccable woman in the bible showed. It’s what made Queen Esther stand out to the king and ultimately save her people.( Read the Esther anointing for a deeper understanding of this bible story) Virtue is what made Phoebe stand out to the apostle Paul, and he chose her to be the barer of his letters to Corinth. These are just a couple examples of when God’s uses a woman’s virtue to empower her.
You are Set Apart
“You have been set apart as holy to the LORD your God, and he has chosen you from all the nations of the earth to be his own special treasure.” — Deuteronomy 14:2
God has no intent to suppress women. Looking at individual scriptures without context, we are tempted to think otherwise, but we should show ourselves approved through studying God’s word.
1 Corinthians 11:15 tells us He has given us a glory. Proverbs 31 speaks about a woman who is strong, capable and worth more than rubies. Look at Queen Deborah and Queen Ester. Look at Priscilla and Phoebe. Dorcas! Naomi! Ruth! There are so many. Study them. God implored them for a greater purpose and empowered them to fulfill it with strength and dignity. Because of this they understood true feminism. He can do that for you, too.
You Have a Special Purpose
Humans are created with a distinct purpose. (see Jeremiah 29:11) At the end of the day, whether man or woman, we should strive to live out that purpose for the honor and glory of God and set aside our pride and vanity. Treat each other equally and with love.
You are strong, smart, and capable. If anyone tells you other wise, prove them wrong by your level headed conduct and genuine compassion. God loves you, implores you, empowers you. Go fulfill your purpose, sis.
If you’d like to learn more about God’s intent for women, I suggest Joy L. Haney’s Women of the Spirit study series, starting with Volume 4.
*on a side note!* We are also doing a pre-sale on His Phoebe Merchandise!